Try to consciously address feelings of uncertainty about parenthood before age 30. Women and men who start seriously trying until their late 30s end up facing a lot!
Start socking money away in savings, money market accounts or whatever gives you the best return. So long you may have had a balanced financial trend with your family but now you are married! Be cautious about it. Sit and figure out all your options available.
Make sure that your relationship is ready and that both of you want to start shouldering responsibilities. Check out what each of you expects from the other after the baby comes (when it will). Does the working parent expect to pat the baby and make it sleep every night while the stay-at-home parent takes care of the child? Who will get up to do the feedings? How will you handle the stress and conflicts of two very different styles of jobs? If either of you is unsure, resolve these issues well before you start trying.
Cultivate a good support system and practice asking for help. Ideally, you'll want friends who are to whom you can ask questions, share stuff and friends whom you and your partner can always count upon.
Going from engaged lovers to parents is the biggest transition any couple goes through. Ease the inevitable friction by discussing some of the harsh realities-- midnight feedings, extreme fatigue, changing desire, and financial issues, before they become unmanageably difficult.
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